Developing a Relationship
by Suzanne Clothier

Now that you've climbed the status ladder and you're the one with the power, you need to take your responsibilities very seriously. A dog's needs are just as important to him as your needs are to you.

• Earn your dog's trust. Keep him safe from harm- harm from other dogs, other people and the elements. In addition, your dog should FEEL safe with you. He should not feel that he has to decide whether to run away or fights; to be aggressive toward another dog or a person, or to hide. You are the one who takes care of him and tells him whether and how he should respond. For instance, dog parks can be great places for dogs to play with other dogs, and for you to chat with other dog people. On the other hand, if too many dogs are playing, or if your dog is acting frightened or aggressive, it's usually best to withdraw. Come back when the environment is more conducive to good behavior. Even something as mundane as the backyard can be a place of danger or a breeder of bad habits, if the dog feels that he has to patrol and defend THE WHOLE THING, and you're not there to reassure him. Always, if other dogs are in the vicinity, or small children are around, extraordinary vigilance is warranted, until you KNOW what your dog's responses will be.
• Manage the dog's environment. In addition to safety, this mans that if the dog chews, find a chew-proof spot for him to stay if you can't watch him. If he runs away, FIX THE FENCE-or build one. Keep him on-leash in traffic. Try not to blame the dog for being a dog, and start modifying the environment to make being good easier. As he becomes more mature and well-behaved, you can relax your management
• Respect your dog as an animal and as an individual. He is your dog and companion. Forcibly moving him, striking him , or pinning him to the ground is likely to lead to relationship problems. If a dog sees you as a threat to his safety, he may either "shut down" and not respond, or become aggressive toward you. He should welcome your touch, not fear it. An inappropriate physical correction can seriously harm or actually destroy your relationship with your dog.
• Exercise and stimulate your dog. Especially in adolescence, the only good dog may be a tired one! Because dogs are naturally most active in the morning and evening hours, a run at those times is very appropriate and will help hi to relax in between. Throwing the ball in the backyard is good exercise, but also realize that your dog requires mental stimulation as well as physical activity.

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